The book, “On Frame,” was a tremendous boon to our family and sport experience. It totally creates the opportunity for a space where we could openly talk about performance anxiety and other issues and it has really transformed our mindsets and parent-child relationship. We have high hopes and expectations for our child but we musn’t push them on him as if they are life or death, thus taking away his zeal and love for the game. We have used this book to help him discover his own drive and his own goals for performance. We have done youth sports for 10 years and we have seen firsthand the drama between parents and players, parents and coaches and parents versus other parents. This book was what gave us the tools to start a conversation with other parents about “jealousy,” and drifting apart when one child excels over another. Thanks Ianni Training and Dave. This has been really helpful and I wish it had been around for us to use 10 years ago.
I had the privilege of reading this book about two months ago when our close family friend, Dave DeHart, shared it with me. I’m a soccer mother-in-law and grandma, but don’t have much soccer experience other than that! The beauty of this book is that isn’t only written for soccer experts. It lends itself to other sports, to building family relationships, and to teachers and other adults who work with children. I am a retired teacher. I see this as a valuable tool in building trust and open communication between adults and kids. It clearly sets the goals for relationship building and provides practical, doable activities for the adults and kids to participate in. I’m delighted that my son-in-law and grandson have the opportunity to use this tool! I’m also the wife of a retired high school coach who would have appreciated having a guide such as this in improving positive communication between coaches, parents and young athletes. Well done and thank you for your commitment to the young athletes you work with!
I wish I had read On Frame years ago! I’ve been a lifelong player, a coach, a parent spectator, and have witnessed the highs and lows of youth sports. On Frame’s insightful reflection on what it means to separate your parenting experience from the coaching experience is invaluable to cultivate the supportive and trusting relationship you want to have with your children surrounding their sports experiences. After reading the guidebook and applying the exercises suggested, I learned a great deal about what my children need and expect from me on the sideline and in the car heading home from games or practices. I have found that my own experience as a sideline spectator has elevated to an enjoyable experience, void of judgment and critique.
Reading the guidebook is easy, following through with the exercises a greater challenge in our busy lives. Take the time to do both. It will pay you back ten-fold with the highest level of understanding of your child’s sports dreams, their coach’s efforts to develop your child’s talent, and respect for those who volunteer their time to officiate the game! It has made a huge difference in my relationships with Dillon, Emilie and Austin.
I thought it was a great experience with my son. I was really able to sit down with him and find out what he wanted and not my ego wanted for him. My sons primary goal is to spend time with his dad and that made me feel great. It was not how much he played or how many games we won, or goals he scored. Really talking to my son and finding out his goals was very eye opening. We always make assumptions and think we know until we talk to our kids. It has opened up a good dialogue between parent and child that I hope we continue on in all aspects of life.